Tristan Just born May 19, 2009

Tristan Just born May 19, 2009
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Sunday, May 9, 2010

1st's

Just like every other new parent Sarah and I were anxious about the 1st's. First tooth, First time Tristan rolls over, First time Tristan would walk, all the way down the line. Now we cherish the 1st's we were able to have with him. Some people view these as little steps as not important but we watched Tristan improve through each stage every moment he was here. We knew more about his emotions and his personality at one month than people have noticed after one year. This is because he was our everything and our only concern while he was here. Nothing else mattered. Now fast forward to today, Mothers Day, a day that we should be playing and taking pictures with mom. Does it change? Do you still think about him every second? Although it is impossible to think about Tristan every second I can tell you it has not changed. He is interlinked into every part of our life. And more importantly our heart knows something is missing. Some day's missing Tristan takes more of a toll on me that work. I actually embrace it because everything about Tristan was and is a blessing. Even as time goes one I still have friends who are "afraid" to talk about Tristan or bring up things about being a parent because they don't want to re-kindle those emotions. Let me tell you I will be dead the first time those emotions are not part of my day, whether you bring it up or not. We actually feel better to talk about Tristan and not "pretend" he didn't exist as we feel some people do. We were invited to a b-day party the same day as Tristan's and the invite almost brought me to tears. Not because it is Tristan's B-Day too but because we were being treated like "normal" parents. They were not afraid to include us even though they knew we could not attend.

Today I want to wish my Sarah a Happy Mothers Day. She with a selected group of special mothers deserve to have a special day for them. Even though their child is not with us in physical for they are in spirit. Why take something away from them? They are the same as every other mother, except they have a heavier heart today. If you know someone who has lost a child reach out to them today. They will never forget it. And I GUARANTEE you they will not be mad about "bringing it up".

Tristan we love you and miss you so much.

Your Birthday is coming up soon big man. I hope the Angels are preparing your first cake.

Love always

Mom and Dad

1 comment:

  1. Gary and ElizabethMay 13, 2010 at 5:25 PM

    Happy (belated) Mother's Day, from Gary and Elizabeth Riley.

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